What the Most Influential People Know About Heated Conversations
The most influential people are not the loudest — but the ones who speak only when necessary.
When we cannot be silent, we are dominated by our ego and enslaved by the need to be heard — this is far from power.
So what’s the one thing you should never do in an argument?
Keep Talking
Most people talk too much in conflict and think that raising their voice shows power when all they’re really doing is exposing their weakness.
Every extra word you say is a clue about what you’re thinking and feeling.
In an argument, silence isn’t a weakness — it’s a powerful weapon.
If you say nothing, not a single word, the other person’s mind enters a chaotic state. They may think to themselves:
- Why isn’t he responding?
- Did I affect him?
- Or does he just not care at all?
When you remain silent, you hold something very powerful and valuable. You hold the cards. You observe, and when you give nothing, the other person becomes desperate. They begin to project because humans cannot stand uncertainty.
In an argument, people often say things to elicit a reaction from you.
- Every reaction reveals your weakness.
- Every explanation shows the blow has affected you.
- Every defense says, “You got to me”.
But when you:
- Learn to stay silent
- Wait without needing to strike
- Learn to measure each word that leaves your mouth
The world listens … because scarcity makes things valuable.
Power isn’t proven by how much you say — it’s preserved by what you don’t.
With Love, Clarity, and Compassion
— Paul
https://medium.com/illumination/dont-ever-do-this-in-an-argument-4203dd53496e
